Common Relationship Issues
All relationships, at one point or another, encounter differences between partners that are both important to each party and difficult to resolve. These differences might seem minor (“You’re not picking up after yourself”) or more significant (“You are not paying much attention to me”). No matter the problem, however, if the disagreement is not handled well, then the parties will wind up arguing. Often, the argument is not about the initial disagreement, but rather how one felt mistreated or disrespected in the course of the communication about the problem. Arguing is essentially an effort by each party to get his or her point across without any effort to understand the point of view of the other. Chronic unresolved problems, as well as poor communication about those problems, can lead rapidly to loss of positive feelings. The end result is that a formerly intimate relationship now feels distant and unrewarding.
HOW CAN COUNSELING HELP?
Couples counseling involves helping couples understand the process that has led to their current feelings about each other. It is an effort to help them see each other’s point of view despite not necessarily agreeing with it. There is always some truth to each person’s position and feelings, and a first step in counseling is for each party to recognize the feelings and efforts of the other. Couples’ counseling often involves discussion of good communication skills. Issues such as being able to listen without interrupting or talking without criticism or disparagement are emphasized and practiced.
Couples counseling can be complicated. Emotions often are strong and progress can take patience as the parties work toward being reflective and understanding with one another. Couples counseling often leads to a more satisfying relationship as partners learn more about each other and how to address differences with patience and good communication.
Get a New Perspective on Your Problems
Counseling encourages enhanced problem-solving and improved coping skills, which often lead to improvements in mood, stress tolerance, and relationships. Many people find that the right counselor can be a major asset in helping encourage personal growth, interpersonal and family relationships, and the hassles of daily life. Counseling can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem and point you in the direction of an attainable solution.